I guess this phrase could be interpreted in several ways including some references that actually have something to do with dancing. My context is based on my coach training to describe when a coach is able to be spontaneous and creative during a session and bring something special to enhance the coaching experience for the client.
It sounds really nice and I would love to be able to embrace it but frankly I didn’t “get” it until this week. I’m known for bringing a structured and well planned approach to my work and somewhat in my personal life. I’m known as “the rock” and if one more person tells me how strong I am I may have to resort to violence or at least entertain thoughts of violence.
The concept of being more free and spontaneous is desirable but I just don’t know how to do that. How do you do that without being a flake? I don’t want to be that either, even though it is tempting at times. I had a glimpse of what it could be like this week when I had a coaching session with a client and I forgot all my notes of our previous sessions at home. Despite my discomfort; I prepared a quick agenda and decided to meet with my client.
The client had made significant progress in moving towards her goals. From there I was able to embark with her and ask powerful questions that resulted in a spontaneous experience and allowed me to “dance in the moment”. I felt so exhilarated I could have jumped up and down, I certainly did mentally. To dance in the moment, we have to let go of our fear of failure or embarrassment. There can’t be a script and you must go with the flow and use your intuition to guide you. Scary stuff!
Real creativity can’t be scripted or captured in a bottle. Now that I’ve had a taste of this experience I will work to abandon my fears. I’m reading a book called Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson. The subject of the book is our inner critic. We all have one unless we are a sociopath; some inner critics are more powerful than others. They get in the way of fulfilling our potential and stymie our dreams.
It is interesting that with every coaching session the coach learns things not only about the client but about themselves. This is a much more challenging program than I had anticipated. I’m used to being the “expert” who everyone comes to for information. Now I’m the novice learning new skills, techniques and approaches. We are frequently thrown in the deep end just to see what we’ll do.
Being pushed or in my case jumping out of my comfort zone is challenging, frightening and thrilling all at the same time. I have to let my fears go and allow my potential to shine through with all the experiences, intuition and empathy that I have in my soul and bring that to my coaching.
If anyone reading this post can provide insight on similar experiences please share them with me.
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“The secret to living is giving.”
Anthony Robbins
And you have a lot to give, Kay.
Michel, I cannot express in mere words how much your encouragement has meant to me both for my coaching and my transition. My intuition served me well to choose you. I am blessed.